How To Accept A Compliment


You played great. Somebody said so. Now what?

Stop me if this sounds familiar. You’re packing up your gear after a Sunday gathering, and someone comes up and says something like “That was awesome” or “You were really shredding those keys today.” It can take you off guard. You didn’t join the worship team for attention so how should you respond when you get it?

It’s not you. It’s God, right?

Wrong-ish. God has given You His best and you’ve responded with yours, but it is still your best. God may use your playing in powerful ways and you may be responding to the Holy Spirit, but there’s still plenty of you in whatever you’re doing. Imagine if God took a guitar solo on Sunday morning. Do you really think it would be a match to yours?

The Reality

Here’s the thing: that person who compliments you isn’t saying that you’re so awesome they couldn’t focus on God. They are telling you that your hard work and practice time made their experience better. They are appreciating you. The correct response to a compliment like that? Try “Thank you”. It works everytime. 

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how do you not get prideful

how do you not get prideful when that happens a lot? Also, it's happening a lot more for me and I feel like people are starting to get annoyed by hearing others always complimenting me, or they feel like I'm expecting to be complimented almost every time. This happens almost every week. Any advice?

I think

you can't worry about how other people perceive others complimenting you. That's usually their issue and not yours.

As far as staying humble, If we have a right perspective that our value comes from God's loves for us, it's actually pretty difficult to take ourselves too seriously. Closeness with God breeds natural humility.

Keep your personal life with God in a healthy place other people's opinions of you won't affect your self worth.

I hope you don't mind -- this is so well said...

I'm going to steal your quote "Keep your personal life with God in a healthy place -- other people's opinions of you won't affect your self worth." This applies to every part of our lives.


Steal away!

the struggle is real....

I have the privilege of working with a youth praise band. (And Jason - you have changed what we're capable of. Wish I would have thought of WA first....just glad SOMEONE did!! ha ha...We are thankful). This is a mature group both musically and spiritually, so we have a range of working through the "I just want to worship" v "this feels like a performance" struggle. First, thanks for validating with this post that we all wrestle with how to balance such a public ministry, based on talent, that has a worldly counterpart that skews how we view the stage in general. The good news is that these kids are aware of pride, and don't want to get in anyone's way when leading. They want to glorify God first. But. What we as leaders must introduce is the fact musical preparation takes WORK. Its takes the left side of your brain as well as your spirit. It's great when the finished experience looks like we are "just worshipping" - but the musician's reality is that leading worship is a cognitive process...a million details...hours working things out at home and rehearsals...reacting to wherever the vocalists are that day...and that is OK.

We also have some struggling with the idea that to do things really well (why modify the riff when you can practice and DO IT!) is prideful. Almost to say 'go big or home' will make it about us and not God. For me (at 45 years old, different than 16....) I can honestly say of course we go big! Why would we NOT be the best we can be as our gift? It's almost as if they want to make worship small in order to not draw attention to themselves, thinking this is how to not be a stumbling block, or how they protect God's glory. It's interesting what we do to control other people's opinions. Anyway - lots of words to say thanks for sharing such common themes as we work to the glory of God through our gifts!

It's funny

how much we place on ourselves when it comes to leading worship. "If I do this, it's going to get in the way of God's glory". Say it out loud and it sounds ridiculous. If I can really get in God's way then my God is not big enough.

I work hard. I prepare. I give my best, but no matter how hard I try, my best is flawed. Still God loves me and accepts my worship and gratitude. It's the most humbling thing in the world. I think if we recognize this excellence and humility can live in harmony. sounds so phoney sounds so phoney when someone gives a compliment and we react with this, "well, you know it was Jesus doing it all" It makes them feel as though they are somehow less spiritual than they should be! You certainly don't want to receive a compliment in a way that causes pain to that person giving the gracious gift to you!